I was really not surprised when I got to know that Google’s top searches for this year include two queries; and they are: “what is love?” and “how to love?” Let's get to know something more about this strongest and purest emotion of all.
I don’t dare say that no relationship is a happy ending in a typical Hindi movie style. The fact of the matter is that most of the relationships luckily or unluckily do not end happily. Today, some youngsters seem busy in ‘she/he loves me-she/he loves me not’ contest. Yes, sometimes it does seem like a bittersweet game. I was really not surprised when I got to know that Google’s top searches for this year include two queries; and they are: “what is love?” and “how to love?” I must confess that I am nobody to comment over this strongest emotion of all. No doubt, love is the strongest and purest emotion which could either make one or break one (in case of someone becoming Devdas). I know I am no ‘love guru’ [and trust me! I do not intend to be the one.] But when I see myself surrounded with youngsters quiet absorbed with this so called feeling of ‘Oh, I am in love” (or read; Oh, I’m in love again!) along with the violins in the background, I call upon heavenly wisdom for them so that they could know what true love really means!
We all have watched and enjoyed scores of meaningful movies with ‘love’ as their central idea. They do give us some clues on the topic of this powerful emotion. Philosophically speaking, love is what makes the world go round. It’s about finding someone you trust, someone you are attracted enough to want to spend the rest of your life with. It is when somebody becomes the center of your world and affects you the most. You are with someone whose companionship is most valuable to you. Love is where there is unconditional giving and selflessness. As they say love is equivalent to God. It’s one of the purest emotions in the universe. Undoubtedly, it’s rare for all these attributes to come together, but when they do; It’s true love. Remember, True love doesn't have a happy ending, because true love never ends. And when we talk about relationships, it’s right to say that good relationships don’t just happen. They are preserved every day. And good relationships happen when two people work together with no options of parting ways. A successful relationship requires falling in love over and over again always with the same person.
As they say love is not an equation, it is not a contract, and it is not a happy ending always. Loving someone and having them love you back is the most precious thing in the world. True love is supposed to turn you into a better person-uplift you. In fact, true love is rare, so when you find it, don't let it go just because of a barrier you can't cross. True love is taking the risk that it won't be a happily-ever-after. It is joining hands with the one who loves you for who you are, and saying, ‘I'm not afraid to believe in you.’ When you think of him/ her, you can't help smiling, knowing that he/she has completed you somehow. When you fall in love, it's with a real person with flaws. Not with a perfect character from a fairy tale. The greatest love stories are not those in which love is only spoken, but those in which it is actually acted upon.
In the Book of Wisdom, Osho explains the difference between love and relationship, particularly the relationship we know. He says that an ‘alive’ relationship is ever-changing. It has many climates, many moods, many surprises. A dead relationship is stagnant, repetitive, the same but no more a relationship. Then you are not two persons but two things together. Of course, two things never quarrel. The quarrel arises when two persons enter. Love is never a relationship, love is relating. It is always a river flowing, unending. Love knows no full stops. Lovers end, love continues. It is a continuum. It is a verb, not a noun. A life full of love is not static but vibrant. There’s a breeziness of freedom in love. Such love knows no bounds, no misery. It is all joy and bliss.
Here this is advisable not to be what others want you to be. Be yourself and find someone who truly loves you for what and who you are. In fact, life doesn’t always introduce you to the people you want to meet. Sometimes life puts you in touch with the people you need to meet – to help you, to hurt you, to leave you, and to gradually strengthen you into a person you were meant to become. When the wrong people walk out of your life, that just makes room for the right ones to walk in. To paraphrase Sri Sri Ravi Shankar, “I’m not experienced in the matters of love, but I can say that there are approximately seven billion people on this planet; 3.5 billion are men, out of them, some are old. You have 2.5 billion men to choose from, so don’t hold on to one rotten apple. You have a lot of choice.” Don't cry over the past, it's gone. Don't stress about the future, it hasn't arrived yet. Live in the present & make it beautiful. ife is just not a straight line. Life is not a cake-walk either. Sometimes some experiences are destined to recognize the ‘real you’, to meet the ‘real you’, to value the ‘real you.’ And remember You Matter. Don’t lose that. Ever!
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